The Power of Grace Ministries

May 21

No weapon can be formed against love and when a husband can love his wife unconditionally and not allow himself to become bitter toward her, his love will strengthen the relationship between the two of them. Remember from Ephesians 5:25 that God places the weight of the marriage on the husband.

Colossians 3:19
“19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.”

            For additional help on understanding this verse you can read my comments on Ephesians 5:25 in my Ephesians bible study. In Ephesians 5:25 Paul adds, “just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”, whereas in Colossians 3:19 he stated do not be bitter. There is an old saying “if mamma isn’t happy, nobody is happy”, and still rings true today. The flip side of that statement can be seen in Ephesians 5:28. Husbands do you hate yourself and want to be miserable in marriage, than stay bitter toward your wife, you WILL get more than you ask for? On the positive note a Godly husband will recognize and understand Proverbs 12:4, “an excellent wife is the crown of her husband”. Husbands if you want an excellent wife treat her with excellence. Remember Colossians 3:17 “And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him”, if you apply this to your wife you will never go wrong.

                I want to touch on what bitterness is and what it does to everybody around it. Bitterness as defined by the unabridged dictionary as “causing pain; piercing; stinging: characterized by intense antagonism or hostility”. This meaning tells us that it defiles everything it touches including the person it comes from. Even words intended as kind or up lifting from a bitter heart will always be heard with an edge of harshness. God showed His love for us in that while we were still sinners Christ dies for us, Romans 5:8. Jesus tells us in John 13:35 that people will know His disciples by the love they show one another. In Romans 12:10 Paul tells us to be affectionately kind to one another and in honor show preference toward one another. There may not be a better way of showing the world and people around you loving kindness than for a husband to publicly and privately show his undying love for his wife.