The Power of Grace Ministries

May 10, 2014

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord is a commandment from God. Husbands: are you providing a godly man for your wife? If so it will be peaceful for her to follow her commandment and your live will be pleasant. Husbands; if you do not provide a godly man for your wife to submit to, your life will be full of strife and all that strife rests on your shoulders.  

Colossians 3:18
“18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”

            This verse from Paul is almost word for word as the verse he wrote to the Ephesians 5:22. In Colossians he does not expand on this comment as he did in Ephesians. My only conclusion to why so little additional input is since the church in Colosse is an outcropping from the church in Ephesus, we can only assume that these churches passed Paul’s letters to one another. Remember the bible is a modern product and Paul did not know he was writing a part of the bible. In verse 22 Paul adds in “workers” to the category of people who should submit and also shed additional light as to what level of submission is truly required. Paul uses the term “according to the flesh” in that we are to show our obedience to Christ through our day to day actions. If we work for someone we are to show respect and submit to their leading in the natural. Likewise a wife is to submit to the leading of the husband in the natural regarding day to day decisions. God is no respecter of persons and in Christ we are spiritually neither male nor female. The wife has equal authority in the spirit world as the husband and she may have information that the husband needs or depends on to make the right decision. The problem of having a household government of two where there can and often is deadlock, the Husband has been given that responsibility to make the final decision. A very wise husband will not take this lightly or rashly, but will do so with reverence because he is called to be the head of his wife as Christ is to the church and gave Himself for it. Bottom line the husband decisions should always be for the mutual benefit of the couple or lean to the blessing side of his wife. He is to never lord his position over her, just as Jesus does not Lord His position over us, but at every opportunity He chooses to show grace and mercy over sacrifice (Matthew 9:13). Also since we all come to Jesus by ourselves and will stand alone in His presence, a wife is responsible for her own spiritual walk. The husband does not have spiritual authority over his wife to make her live contrary to the word of God.

                In Ephesians 5:21 Paul starts out with submit to one another before he says anything about the wife submitting to the husband. This is a key point in that all Christians are to submit to one another. The word submit; is to give preference to, not become a slave of. If we submit our hopes, dreams, and fears to one another and pray for one another we will all be healed?

                An additional thought to consider on these verses is that Paul is writing to a people with much different customs and morays than today. I believe we should take this into consideration as well when interrupting these verses. Just as in 1Timothy 2:11-12 where Paul is telling women to be quiet and not teach a man; women of that day did not have any voice according to Jewish or Roman customs. Today we need to keep verse 18 completely in the natural and the Godly husband needs to be mindful that God will not be pleased if the husband abuses his authority over the woman. I also recommend reading my comments on Ephesians 5:22 in my bible study of Ephesians.