The Power of Grace Ministries

December 9

Children do not know anything before they have been taught. To let a child decide anything for themselves is the same as throwing them to wolves; the world and its ways will destroy them. If the parents do not take the effort to learn the truth of the word of God and teach is to their children, what they learn from the world or other religious people may cause them to turn against their own parents. We see way too much of this in this country.  Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it, Proverbs 22:6 NKJV.

Ephesians 6:1-3
, 1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: 3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.

                In today’s society children have been given so many rights that they can almost do whatever they want. This is sad because none of us when we were children knew what was best for us to do. All children want to do is play and eat fun foods. If parents were to allow this, across the board our children would grow up to be fat, stupid adults, because none of them want to eat the healthy foods, and I have yet to see a five year old walking to school on their own because they wanted to go learn. God is a God of order and in His order there are great blessings and protection. The key to the importance in understanding what God is saying in verse 1 is, “in the Lord”. Children are to obey their parents in all things, but not to the point of entering into a sin. Even at the command of a parent, children are not to steal, or kill; they should be protected from sexual immorality, not made to enter into it. If a parent is leading their child into a sin life and the child is able to understand what is happening, they do not have to obey. Just as I mentioned in Ephesians 5:22, there is a difference in submission and obedience, children are to obey, but they too will stand before the Lord alone someday to answer for themselves. God wants each of us to have our own relationship with Him through Christ Jesus. The weight is on the parents to train their child up in the way of the Lord. We must keep in mind that Paul is writing to the church in Ephesus and therefore speaking to believers. The natural mind cannot comprehend the truths of God and even believers have a tendency to slip back into carnal thinking. This verse is a great reminder of how to live Godly lives. 

                As children grow up they need added responsibility of making some of their own decisions. This is a part of training children up to be productive adults. Parents are in a constant state of guidance and release so that when the child is ready they can step into life without holding mommy or daddy’s hand like they did going to school the first time. As the child grows older honor comes into play and is to remain throughout the parent’s life. Honor at times may look like obedience, but is more of a reverence for the position and understanding of the sacrifice made by the parent to raise the child. To honor is to esteem and respect. The Greek word (TIAMEO) from which honor is translated means “to prize” or to fix a value on. Where children fail in this area is when they put their parents down, either to their face or behind their backs. ALL children grow up to a point of thinking their parents are too old to understand what they are going through and that their peers know what is best so they choose to follow their peers. This is an act of dishonoring your parents. Paul references Exodus 20:12 and Deuteronomy 5:16, when he is writing verse 2. This truly is the first of the Ten Commandments that has a promise attached to it. God is not lack in fulfilling His promises.