The Power of Grace Ministries

December 10

When it comes to children, fathers should be leaders not directors. Fathers always teach them how to have a Christ like lifestyle their own relationship with Christ. The stronger the father’s relationship with Christ the stronger the child’s, the more distant the relationship the more distant the child. It’s that simple! Teaching “churchanity” instead of Christianity will always lead to provocation as the child gets older.

Ephesians 6:4
, 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

                If you haven’t noticed God puts a solid weight on the man, husband and father, for a walk of righteousness. (Luke 12:48, To whom much is given, much is required.)  We as men have been given this weight, but it is not without the accompanying blessings, nor is it to be carried out in our own strength. Jesus is more than our Lord; he is also our brother and mediator. (Rom 8:29, 1 Tim 2:5) I have heard a preacher say, “We are to preach often, and on occasion use few words”. This sums up best how a man should guide his family; as a husband, father, and even at his place of employment. Proverbs 22:6 tells us to “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it”. What men fail to understand is this training happens regardless the direction they are pointed. Children learn from example as much as anything else. If the parents, and specifically the father if he is in the child’s life does not walk with the Lord in all of their actions, so shall the child be pointed. I was raised up to be a ruthless businessman with a secondary regard to anything that has to do with the church or a walk with Jesus. Consequently, I went the wrong way in life until I came face to face with my own short coming and also face to face with Jesus my Lord. At age 23 I had my own Damascus road experience, praise God, but how much further along in my walk with God and in my personal, natural life, could I have been if I would have been trained up in the ways of the Lord. On another note that lines up with verse 4 I have seen fathers demand a walk out of their children, go to church, go to bible study, live a righteous life, always respect the word of God and the pastor, and then go out themselves and get drunk, curse their children’s mother, steal from the job, and basically live for themselves above anything else. These same men will question God and the church when their children leave the church and wander in the world and its lusts. Fathers are provoking their children to wrath when they live a life of, “do as I say and not as I do” in front of their children. Matthew 18:6 "But whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea”. This verse is not just a challenge to pastors and religious leaders to speak and walk a worthy path before their congregation, but as men we are as a priest in our home. Not that our children can only come to God through us, because they must have their own relationship with God, but as a pastor, fathers should always point, encourage, and train their children into their own relationship with God through Christ Jesus. As disciplinarian we are to correct our children when they do the wrong thing, but never forget grace. Children will always do something wrong, but condemnation will only teach the child that they can never please that parent, or that they are incapable of doing anything right. Colossians 3:21 cautions fathers to not provoke their children to the point of being discouraged. In pointing out a wrong doing, ask the Holy Spirit to help you use that opportunity to gently point the child toward their own walk with Jesus. In doing so you will be training up your child in the way they should go. Teach them a Christian lifestyle in everything they do, not just a lifestyle of going to church by wrote just because it is Sunday. Stir up the joy of joining fellow believers in worship and in fellowship through the church in yourself, and then spread that joy to your children.